1. Throughout history, women have been treated badly, very badly, by men.

2. Today, many women are treated badly, very badly, by men.

3. As economic independence of the individual woman increases, she rationally makes a risk-reward assessment of all her relationships -- male and female. That assessment incorporates personal life experience and societal life experience (current and past).

4. The assessment rationally leads to a requirement (implicit or explicit) that a man pass an internally-generated threshold to justify the risk-reward of a social interaction of some kind.

In effect, the rational women asks for a demonstration of why a particular man does not present one or more knowable risks AND presents a one or more desirable rewards. Or, to put it more simply, "why is this particular man not trash?"

What's the problem?